My mother-in-law passed away early this morning. She had been in a hospice for over a year and knew she was going to die. In the last couple of weeks, she made a point of calling all of her relatives, including children still in the Philippines, to tell them goodbye and that she loved them. Many others came to see her in the hospice.
I spent time with her last week, sitting by her bedside and listening to her stories. She was a wonderful mother-in-law and a great friend too.
One day last week when I went to see her, she was trying to stand up, holding on to her walker. Since she was blind from inoperable cataracts, I announced my presence as I entered. She pointed to her left and asked me who the lady was standing nearby. I told her there was no one there. When Mrs. Chomper came in, she also asked her who the stranger was standing a few feet away. "Is that a statue?" she asked. My wife replied that there was no one there. How my mother-in-law could see anything, being blind, is rather strange. Still, she insisted that she perceived this person's presence.
It immediately occurred to me that my mother-in-law was having predeath visions, fairly common among the dying. My father had them too, a few weeks before his death in 1991. He kept asking who "those people" were, the ones standing over by the fireplace. No one else could see them, however.
I will really miss my mother-in-law. I loved her, and I told her so frequently in these past few final months of her life.